What’s Your Sign?

Love Languages. I think there are 5 of them. They all revolve around what we need in order for our ‘cups to be full’ in order for us to feel the love that we so desperately need. 

I took a test and everything. The prominent results displayed on a pie chart with a percentage next to them as if it mattered at all. As if I would remember it. As if anyone would ask. We will do anything to define ourselves. We proudly display our results… hoping they set us apart. 

“I’m an Aries, so that should tell you what you need to know.” 

It doesn’t. No truly, no one gives a shit.

What I do know is that we all have the need to connect, to be loved and most of all the need to be seen. Even by ourselves. 

Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror for a second longer than you should? It is absolutely terrifying. Have you ever done that? Stared at yourself. Through yourself. 

I wonder what it’s like for someone else to do that… stare at you for a moment longer than originally anticipated or socially appropriate. There are exercises that come to mind. I think they are performed in therapeutic spaces where a professional with a paper framed on a wall suggests that you sit on the floor and “really look at one another” - profound. 

Honestly, it comes down to this. 

Some of us already know... We don’t need a test or a chart or a percentage to tell us what hurts or what we hope for. We just want it to be seen by someone. Anyone.

Because at the core of it all is the same quiet truth:
we want to matter to someone in a way that makes the emptiness feel a little less loud.

Because someone stayed long enough to notice.